Is who we appear to be on the various social networks who we actually are? Or do you, like me, try to appear to be cooler/deeper/funnier?
I spend an inordinate amount of time worrying about what I do and don’t say online.
I always try to say things ‘on message’ – stuff about being the best we can be, about being creative, and being positive. I feel as though I have my own ‘brand' and I don’t want to let it down by posting something too personal, or too negative.
I even worry about how things might appear to a prospective publisher in the future: will my website put them off? What about my music? Does it show I’m too unfocused, dabbling in too many media? And what of this blog? Would they think I was putting too much of myself ‘out there’, displaying too many weaknesses, or talking about things a fiction-writer has no business commenting on?
Every Facebook status or Tweet is deliberated over, and I have deleted within minutes many posts that, in hindsight, I feel are not appropriate for the person I want to appear to be.
And that’s the point: I (and I suspect I am not alone) project a particular persona online and this even spills over into ‘real life’ as well
Some people say we should be authentic and not hide our ‘true selves’; people who matter will accept us as we are and those that don’t aren’t worth it.
But I’m not in that school of thought. I believe it’s okay to want to be different, to want to be ‘better’. And I believe the best way to become what you want to be is to start acting like that until it becomes natural.
Don't get me wrong, I don’t think anyone should be coerced into being different; if you’re happy with who you are then crack on and be it.