Today, let’s start with a song:
I love that song; it’s filled with meaning and honesty. The music betrays the lyrics, beautifully highlighting the lie of Regina’s words because, the truth is, we all need ‘saving’, I guess. We spend our time faking it, pretending we have it all together, acting like we don’t need anyone or anything, but I don’t believe that’s true of anyone.
A friend of mine said recently: ‘That’s all any of us are doing really: trying to go as long as possible without getting “found out”.’ I.e. if people saw who we were really, even for just five minutes, they might never want to know us again.
I don’t really believe that’s true either, even though I allow myself to live by it all too often.
I think when we do allow someone in to see the real ‘us’, in those moments of connection I mentioned in my last post, rather than finding rejection or ridicule, we can discover we’re not the only ones.
Everyone has their ‘demons’, their doubts, their self-deprecation: that internal dialogue unendingly telling us we’re not good enough, no-one will love us, we have nothing to offer. (The other week I said it’d be really cool if we could get celebrity voices to ‘do’ our internal dialogues – sort of like those apps for Sat Nav systems. I quite like the idea of John Cleese doing mine.)
It’s hard, really hard. And in letting someone in, we make ourselves vulnerable, and that can hurt sometimes. But the rewards can be greater; sometimes we can find a ‘hero’, or even be one for someone else.
And who doesn’t want that?